{"id":23981,"date":"2026-10-23T14:52:05","date_gmt":"2026-10-23T11:52:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/?p=23981"},"modified":"2026-10-23T14:52:05","modified_gmt":"2026-10-23T11:52:05","slug":"yillarca-mutlu-kalan-ciftlerin-ortak-sirri-belli-oldu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/2026\/10\/23\/yillarca-mutlu-kalan-ciftlerin-ortak-sirri-belli-oldu\/","title":{"rendered":"Y\u0131llarca Mutlu Kalan \u00c7iftlerin Ortak S\u0131rr\u0131 Belli Oldu"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Y\u0131llarca birlikte olup h\u00e2l\u00e2 mutlu olan \u00e7iftlerin s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131 hep merak etmi\u015fizdir. Mutluluk s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n da ortak hobiler ya da hi\u00e7 s\u00f6nmeyen bir tutku oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Oysa y\u0131llarca mutlu olan \u00e7iftlerin s\u0131rr\u0131, arkada\u015fl\u0131kta gizli.<\/p>\n

Klinik psikolog Gemma Cribb’e g\u00f6re uzun ili\u015fkilerdeki mutluluk, temelde \u00e7ok iyi bir arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011fa dayan\u0131yor. Avustralya’da ya\u015fayan iki \u00e7iftin hik\u00e2yesi de bunu do\u011fruluyor.<\/p>\n

Gelin, yak\u0131ndan bakal\u0131m.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div>\n

Mutlu \u00e7iftler birbirinin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndan kopmuyor<\/b><\/p>\n

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Cribb’e g\u00f6re uzun s\u00fcreli ili\u015fkilerde mutlulu\u011fun form\u00fcl\u00fc, ‘temelde \u00e7ok iyi bir arkada\u015fl\u0131k’. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalara g\u00f6re bunun ilk ad\u0131m\u0131 partnerin i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyas\u0131ndan kopmamak<\/strong>. Yani y\u0131llar ge\u00e7se de onun hayat\u0131nda neler olup bitti\u011fini sormaya devam etmek.<\/p>\n

\u0130kinci unsur sevgi ve hayranl\u0131k.\u00a0<\/strong>Partnerin hayat\u0131n\u0131za katt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 fark etmek ve bunu ona a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a s\u00f6ylemek.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc ise ihtiya\u00e7lara kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermek. <\/strong>\u00d6rne\u011fin stresli oldu\u011funu fark edip destek olmak.<\/p>\n

Cribb, ortak ilgi alanlar\u0131n\u0131n ve mizah\u0131n ise abart\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor, \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc ilgi alanlar\u0131 zamanla de\u011fi\u015febiliyor. Psikolog, birbirine yelken tutkusuyla ba\u011flanan bir \u00e7ifti \u00f6rnek veriyor: Taraflardan biri bir g\u00fcn yelken yapamaz hale gelirse, ili\u015fkiyi ayakta tutacak daha derin bir ba\u011fa ihtiya\u00e7 var.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n

Partnerlerini de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131yorlar<\/b><\/p>\n

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Cribb’e g\u00f6re ger\u00e7ek sevgi, partneri ‘t\u00fcm kusurlar\u0131yla’ kabul etmek demek. Psikolog, mutlu \u00e7iftlerin tekrar eden sorunlarda kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye y\u00f6nelik bir plan\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vurguluyor.<\/p>\n

Para, cinsellik, zaman, da\u011f\u0131n\u0131kl\u0131k ve \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerine \u00e7\u0131kan tart\u0131\u015fmalar \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ki\u015filik farklar\u0131ndan kaynaklan\u0131yor ve hi\u00e7bir zaman tamamen \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmeyebiliyor. Sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 \u00e7iftler de bu konular\u0131 konu\u015fuyor, ama i\u015fin i\u00e7ine mizah ve \u015fefkat katarak.<\/p>\n

Canberra’da ya\u015fayan 43 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Amanda, e\u015fi Caleb’in i\u00e7e d\u00f6n\u00fck yap\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fta kendisini zorlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131yor. Onu oldu\u011fu gibi kabul etmeye karar verdi\u011finde ise bu kabul Caleb’in kendini desteklenmi\u015f hissetmesini ve zamanla de\u011fi\u015febilmesini<\/strong> sa\u011flam\u0131\u015f.<\/p>\n

Amanda, ili\u015fkilerinin d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan ‘s\u0131radan ve s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131’ g\u00f6r\u00fcnebilece\u011fini ama birbirleri i\u00e7in g\u00fcvenli bir liman olduklar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n<\/figure>\n

K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck rit\u00fceller ba\u011f\u0131 canl\u0131 tutuyor<\/b><\/p>\n

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Melbourne’de ya\u015fayan 35 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Sarah (ger\u00e7ek ad\u0131 de\u011fil), partneriyle 15 ya\u015f\u0131ndan beri birlikte. \u00c7iftin her g\u00fcn tekrarlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar\u0131 var: Evden \u00e7\u0131karken vedala\u015fma \u00f6p\u00fcc\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, ki art\u0131k bunu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck o\u011fullar\u0131 hat\u0131rlat\u0131yor. Bir de bebek uyuduktan sonra ba\u015f ba\u015fa ge\u00e7irdikleri dakikalar.<\/p>\n

Cribb de sabah bir fincan \u00e7ay e\u015fli\u011finde g\u00fcn\u00fc konu\u015fmak gibi bilin\u00e7li rit\u00fcellerin \u00e7iftleri birbirine ba\u011fl\u0131 tuttu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor.<\/p>\n

Sarah, k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir \u00e7ocukla yak\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa zaman ay\u0131rman\u0131n zor oldu\u011funu ama bunun ge\u00e7ici bir d\u00f6nem oldu\u011funu bildiklerini anlat\u0131yor. \u00c7ift, evdeki beyaz tahtaya \u015fu notu yazm\u0131\u015f: ‘H\u00e2l\u00e2 birbirimizi seviyoruz, sadece yorgunuz.’<\/p>\n

Cribb’e g\u00f6re insanlara ilk tutku s\u00f6nd\u00fckten sonra ili\u015fkinin neye benzedi\u011fi pek g\u00f6sterilmiyor. Ba\u011f\u0131 canl\u0131 tutmak ise s\u00fcrekli emek istiyor.<\/p>\n

Mutlu ili\u015fkiler, s\u0131radan g\u00f6r\u00fcnen g\u00fcnlerde in\u015fa ediliyor.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Y\u0131llarca birlikte olup h\u00e2l\u00e2 mutlu olan \u00e7iftlerin s\u0131rr\u0131n\u0131 hep merak etmi\u015fizdir. Mutluluk s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n da ortak hobiler ya da hi\u00e7 s\u00f6nmeyen bir tutku oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcz. Oysa y\u0131llarca mutlu olan \u00e7iftlerin s\u0131rr\u0131, arkada\u015fl\u0131kta gizli. Klinik psikolog Gemma …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":23982,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[317,316,150],"class_list":["post-23981","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-iliskiler","tag-ciftler","tag-mutlu","tag-zaman"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23981","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=23981"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23981\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":23986,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/23981\/revisions\/23986"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/23982"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=23981"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=23981"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/urohaber.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=23981"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}